I was in a taxi the other day and it stopped to pick up a certain lady. I consider myself a gentleman so I did the right thing. I got out of the car and opened the door for her. In the movies the lady would have smiled and said a polite thank you and that would have been the end of that. But unfortunately this is your typical Kenyan lady; she gave me a look which was a combination of suspicion and disgust.

I guess in her mind she was thinking that I was some sort of creep and that the simple act of opening the door had a hidden agenda.

The so-called Kenyan ‘ladies’ have double standards. On one hand they mourn and whine about the lack of real gentlemen within our borders, and yet when we go out of our way to treat them like proper ladies our efforts are met with suspicion and most of the time they go unnoticed.

Your average Kenyan female wants to be treated like a lady, she would like for the men to pull out chairs for her, open doors for her and not let her do manly acts like changing car tires; and yet she does not behave like a proper lady. You will find her seated at the bar drinking a beer straight from a wine glass,swearing like a sailor and picking fights with strangers. I do understand that we live in the twenty-first century and don’t get me wrong, I support the women’s liberation movement to the fullest but you should not forget your femininity.

Kenyan women (I refuse to use the word ‘ladies’) are wholly responsible for the death of the gentleman. Chivalry is dead because these so-called ladies would not recognise it if it slapped them in the face. You will only be treated like a lady if you act like one.

(As was posted by Andrew MistaWest Bore; shared with permission.)

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6 thoughts on “Death Of A Gentleman

  • October 17, 2013 at 12:12 pm
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    While I hear your sentiments, I think it’s a matter of not blaming either side – we’re both products of society and our backgrounds/upbringing.
    The way I see it, we have a chance to fix this – if we know we’re not being ladies/gentlemen, start acting like it. Sooner or later, the ladies will run into the gentlemen and both parties will be happy. Then the world will start changing… change begins with me, right?
    Is it too simple for us to make it happen?

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  • October 17, 2013 at 3:55 pm
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    If you treat a woman like a lady, she’ll act like one.

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  • October 17, 2013 at 4:20 pm
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    Quite the generalisation on this one.
    I’m not sure how to respond.
    Perhaps you should choose better company?
    And not judge a whole gender on the actions of one. Because otherwise “men are dogs” would apply based on the action of few.

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    • June 16, 2015 at 3:17 pm
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      I was about to write the same thing. The blame game makes a response difficult, because it’s like there are only two truths and you must pick a side. At the same time begs the question, what qualifies as a lady? And what qualifies as a gentleman? Is it even important or are we clinging to an outdated romatisied perception of gender roles?
      The article is so generalised leaves one with too many questions.

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  • October 17, 2013 at 5:26 pm
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    wholly?” that’s quite a drastic choice of words. I understand why you would say that not all women deserve the term lady. But isn’t it worth considering that maybe, just MAYBE your behavior caught her off guard? Gentlemen are few & far between. Can’t blame ALL women for just one woman’s coping mechanism…

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  • October 21, 2013 at 2:23 pm
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    It is both our faults. Most women aren’t used to being treated like a lady, because most don’t do it….hence the suspicious look.

    As men, we should start the practice with our girlfriend, our wife, our mother, our daughters and nieces….and “hopefully” it grows and spreads and becomes a habit.

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